tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post4794185043939700462..comments2023-10-23T08:59:08.202-07:00Comments on The Revolution Will Be: One Woman's Opinion: The Midwest Sucks.dundaysinnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06952492130585543259noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-33890410477986844992022-11-03T23:09:01.752-07:002022-11-03T23:09:01.752-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-85271417957417097252022-11-03T22:23:12.854-07:002022-11-03T22:23:12.854-07:00It's also so damn expensive up here which suck...It's also so damn expensive up here which sucks even more. One thing I disagree with is about the christian religion up here. The people up here in the midwest especially the state I grew up in shtty Minnesota, is the opposite of christianity. Oh god forbid you deal with an hostile threatening person there you're fucked. The people here believe in occult and are devil advocates. Oh no, I move away from them as quickly as I can. Jesus Our Lord and Savior doesn't live inside this morons. Guess who lives inside these people umm yeah, satan. They are the epitome of satan. Going to college made realize how bad specifically Minnesotans are and the weird un American behaviors of the midwest are. I in the south it's more christianity / Jesus orientated. Unless you're in a small conservative town in the Midwest.Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-29666991965251559022022-11-03T22:22:40.208-07:002022-11-03T22:22:40.208-07:00I do want to mention. I am very impressed with mos...I do want to mention. I am very impressed with most of these posts. However there's things I mostly agree with and some I disagree with. I agree it's very clannish up here, the people can be very cold and be complete jerks to total strangers. I do believe the midwest and specifically the upper midwest is dominantly white in population but that doesn't mean it's isn't diversity, it's just the "white" race makes up the entire midwest population. Yes, the racism is very bad here/rampant and It took me awhile to realize how bad the racial injustices are up here. Before kept thinking, oh it ain't bad up here besides other parts of the country that has bad racism like the south or west coast. Up here in the Midwest the people are dishonest about their prejudices against minorities. They pretend not to be racist when they are in a covert manner. Then they convince others they accept minorities when deep down they don't. Not only that, they don't behave well around people from other cultures when ever they see them they flee from them. Yeah, midwesterners suffer with xenophobia. The gist of the difference up here is they aren't in your face confrontational about their racism. That's worse than overt racism than a person of color gets called the "N" word or gay person being call the "F" word, or a latino being called a taco. Overt racism, I would consider healthy racism. It doesn't mean it's tolerated or condoned it's just way be grown up about it and it makes a person less racist compared to people deliberately hide their racial truths. I do notice up here people are a lot more rude about their prejudices than anywhere else which is just sadly unbearable. I do hate how ridiculously Cold it gets up here in the winter and how hot/ buggy it gets here in the summer time.<br /><br />It's also so damn expensive up here which sucks even more. One thing I disagree with is about the christian religion up here. The people up here in the midwest especially the state I grew up in shtty Minnesota, is the opposite of christianity. Oh god forbid you deal with an hostile threatening person there you're fucked. The people here believe in occult and are devil advocates. Oh no, I move away from them as quickly as I can. Jesus Our Lord and Savior doesn't live inside this morons. Guess who lives inside these people umm yeah, satan. They are the epitome of satan. Going to college made realize how bad specifically Minnesotans are and the weird un American behaviors of the midwest are. I in the south it's more christianity / Jesus orientated. Unless you're in a small conservative town in the Midwest.Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-80152899064605879602022-11-03T21:04:18.706-07:002022-11-03T21:04:18.706-07:00 I am sure you feel insecure and hate yourself. Oh... I am sure you feel insecure and hate yourself. Oh boo hoo! You need a tissue, dollar has them for $1.25 go there.<br /><br />When it comes to new transplants, you treat them very horribly like they are a disease or like the devil that came out of nowhere. Not welcoming transplants is one thing, but do you have to be extremely insolent, bitter, rude and beyond judgmental to transplants, who clearly did nothing to you. You’re xenophobic acts against transplants is making transplants here to hate it here. Deep down you hate people that are different from you, you abhor people that weren’t born in your overrated pretentious shitty state.<br /><br />The people here are nice? You’re kidding right, that’s absolute bull shit. The people in MN are not nice at all. And why would i or anyone expect them to be nice. These are the most horrible, self centered, narcissistic, pretentious in compassionate, rudest, fake, oppressed people, I have ever met in my life. Anytime minnesotans are nice, it’s just an act, a game to conceal their hatred. Yeah, ironic isn’t it. <br /><br />Minnesotans, are very delusional, they lack self awareness. Oh my god! God forbid if anyone complains to Minnesotans about anything Minnesotans are the victims and the real victims are losers. You tell me how does that qualifies as nice, or are you one of those people who fails to admit you and the rest of the people in Minnesota got issues by always defending your shitty state (minnesota) and the natives in it. Maybe you’re all too scared to admit, you’re all ignorant cowards that don’t even raise their children right. Instead, you raise them to be horrible human beings and horrible american citizens. Like seriously, how do all of you manage to look at yourselves in the mirror every morning. How do you even sleep at night or should i ask your doctor or therapist.<br /><br />When it comes to politics, you all are pathetic low lives. You elect a dislikable governor (Waltz) that can’t perform any of his job duties, pretends he cares about the people his state, avoids responsibility, avoids confrontation, always raising taxes, housing prices, store prices, etc. In other words, waltz is tainting the economy here in this state, ironic isn’t it. Name one thing he did after that man slaughter incident back in 2020. I got one word for you, nothing. As far as i am concerned, waltz is the epitome of Joe Biden bc biden is a coward.<br /><br />Then you have these terrible leftists, democrats running/ruining your shitty urban cities, suburbs and colonizing all the suburbs in the twin cities metro area making it your territory. It’s no wonder all the towns in the twin cities loop is all ghetto trash. Filled with yuppies, citiots, creepy hipsters, gangsters, BLM rejects, Antifa groups, drug cartels and etc.<br /><br />A beautiful state? I disagree, the wildlife here is ugly, the rivers and ecosystem here is polluted and so is the air. Traffic here sucks the drivers here are abominable If i would give this state a letter grade i’d give it an “F” rating 33%. Sorry :/ - not sorry.<br />Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-91036125686522544392022-11-03T21:01:30.361-07:002022-11-03T21:01:30.361-07:00You Minnesotans also refuse to behave normally aro...You Minnesotans also refuse to behave normally around minorities and people of color. When a person of different race walks by you, you pretend you don’t see them bc you suffer with colorblindness and that’s not only it. You Minnesotans purposely perform all these nasty, prejudicial, nonverbal micro-aggressive attacks against minorities and people of color. When you see a minority or person of color you purposely/subtly avoid them in your presence and in any public setting bc deep down you can’t stand being around minorities. Of all Americans, I find minnesotans very bitter with their with their racism. Minnesotans are dishonest about their racism and aren’t upfront about it which is even worse than calling someone the N word performing any bigoted hate crime. In other words, it’s healthy racism when you’re upfront about it and don’t hide it bc you minnesotans are prone at hiding your racism. The bottom line is you pretend not to be racist when in reality you are. Do you all even know how hypocritical you are, you claim you’re better people and have good human qualities when it’s just an absolute lie. You think you’re above the rest of country and the world when deep down you’re lying to yourself. FYI anyone lying about having good qualities is considered a self righteous prick. Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-81221523400658921342022-11-03T21:00:29.924-07:002022-11-03T21:00:29.924-07:00Minnesota is foreign because living here is like l...Minnesota is foreign because living here is like living in a foreign country with different values, different cultural norms and stupid laws. Minnesotans don’t even act like normal Americans. You see, normal Americans have good manners, they are directly honest and not passive aggressive. Look at Georgia or the southern states for example. They admire America and act like true normal Americans at heart, when something is wrong they tell you the real “gospel”truth. Minnesotans, however conceal the truth about everything, especially when it comes to racism. You stupid minnesotans pretend to accept minorities/other ethnicities then once their back is turned, you talk horribly about them and back stab them. Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-23145706945038448342022-11-03T20:49:50.794-07:002022-11-03T20:49:50.794-07:00I was born in ND but grew up in Minnesota. I absol...I was born in ND but grew up in Minnesota. I absolutely hate this place and i hate/despise the ppl here. It’s a miserable depressing hell hole here. I can’t wait to move out. The ppl here are beyond the most rudest, stuck up, super judgmental, ignorant, arrogant and delusional people ever. I can’t tell how many times i have raged at these idiots for being incredibly stupid it’s so despicable. And I can’t tell you how many times i have attempted suicide and tried to cut myself here. This place is a big joke and scam. They got no fucking manners at all, they forget to say “excuse me” while they are almost bumping into while passing by. But no the idiotic response I get is “sorry” when deep down you don’t feel guilty about almost knocking me down. Yeah, manners don’t apply here, the golden rule treat others as you want to be treated, feeling human being treated like you exisit, love & compassion don’t apply here. There mn natives are horrible, they are cunts, they suck, are ocultish and demonic. I swear to god being around them feels like a curse bc they’re basically garbage junk junk type ppl that can go fuck themselves and die.Minnesota or should say shitsota, I think gives the entire midwest a bad reputation/perception. The state and the ppl here got issues. If you want to vent to about how shitty it is up here or just need a shoulder to vent. Add me on snapchat kothrive. Below are truths about shitty Minnesota.<br /><br />Ken Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919222705730112043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-71352141538243711412021-05-05T03:14:44.023-07:002021-05-05T03:14:44.023-07:00The comments are literally a life line rn. I’m 23 ...The comments are literally a life line rn. I’m 23 and from st louis. I spent the last three years traveling and moving around. I was about to move to austin before covid happened but then of course my plans were dashed and I ended up having to move back home. I’ve only been here for 6 months but its truly hell on earth. I feel like I’m taking fu**ing crazy pills. <br /><br />I never felt like I fit in here or like people liked me growing up and I thought that being that I went and did all this stuff and grew, I would feel more accepted and happy to be around familiar faces. But jesus christ it’s only gotten worse. Its like all my peers just came out of a cryogenic sleep, they’re all EXACTLY the same and I’m still an alien. Its worse though because I can actually see how hellish it all is. One of my high school classmates recently got arrested for murder. He stalked a woman and killed her boyfriend in broad daylight. And people were just like “oh thats sad, but you know, his family was troubled.” As if the whole city isn’t splattered with blood. Its horrifying. People really do lie to themselves, I mean you have to. The company line is that crime stats are wildly inflated because the city and county are separate but thats patently false and very apparent if you live here. Ive lost count of how many people I know are dead or in jail. They all think it’s like that everywhere and yet, they’ve never been anywhere else. And god forbid you point any of this out, nothing makes you an outcast faster than not conforming. Conforming to ideas, to bad outfits, to shitty baseball games. Everyone here dresses “alternative” and is covered and tattoos. They all buy a cannon and drink pbr and call themselves artists. But all their art and tattoos and indie outfits look pretty uniform and uncreative to me. It’s so incredibly soul sucking here. I’m moving to queens as soon as my lease is up thank god. Otherwise I’d have to start getting stick and pokes and buy a gun pretty soon.Clarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13074712941087088820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-14487032128462745212021-02-21T03:55:21.407-08:002021-02-21T03:55:21.407-08:00Well said. Ehen I talk about the Midwest, my rage ...Well said. Ehen I talk about the Midwest, my rage gets the better of my eloquence. You nailed it. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-71129256616161438222021-02-21T03:52:20.196-08:002021-02-21T03:52:20.196-08:00I have lived in both Minneapolis and Chicago. They...I have lived in both Minneapolis and Chicago. They suck too. Just give it time. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-67525210423261865652021-02-21T03:47:07.077-08:002021-02-21T03:47:07.077-08:00Oh, bullshit. Midwesterners suck. It isn’t the wea...Oh, bullshit. Midwesterners suck. It isn’t the weather or the flatness or the Jesus thing. It’s the people. I really hate you. I have lived in NY, PA, FL, MD, TX, Germany. I have spent 3 monthe or mor in Italy, France, and India. I have travelled to at least 400 towns and cities all over the world. The only place I HATE BECAUSE OF THE PEOPLE is the Midwest. <br />You are the meanest, stupidest, pettiest, rudest, cheapest, humorless, most dishonest and untrustworthy useless people that ever lived. Don’t blame the weather or Jesus. This is all about you. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-64560829729565253572021-02-21T03:36:26.997-08:002021-02-21T03:36:26.997-08:00❤️❤️Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-17951970730211705182021-02-21T03:33:06.167-08:002021-02-21T03:33:06.167-08:00Name one verifiable thing that the Midwest does be...Name one verifiable thing that the Midwest does better than the Northeast. Education? Infrastructure? Housing? Job growth? Literacy? Government accountability? Environment? Go on. Name one.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-63247879457531321652021-02-21T03:29:12.330-08:002021-02-21T03:29:12.330-08:00What the f*** are you talking about? lolWhat the f*** are you talking about? lolJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-25078665240675592482021-02-21T03:26:29.694-08:002021-02-21T03:26:29.694-08:00You live in a bubble. Really. You live in a bubble. Really. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-62537133150559028302021-02-21T03:24:47.506-08:002021-02-21T03:24:47.506-08:00Midwesterners are vile. Midwesterners are vile. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16341916084885061252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-75839023613335502032021-01-08T18:27:44.984-08:002021-01-08T18:27:44.984-08:00Of course bringing this up to my fiance would do m...Of course bringing this up to my fiance would do me no good. He'd just rebuttal, "well go back to NY then if you hate it here so much." Easy for him to say when I've just left everything behind and our baby is barely 4 months old and I had just gotten all of my belongings and financials settled. Anyway, I cringe when I think about just how in love with themselves Yoopers are for no just reason. They think they're the only ones who have nature and lakes. They think that people from cities live in concrete cells surrounded by nothing but ruffians and chaos. They think people from cities are "bougie" and that we have never seen a forest or a body of water. They think that gun laws from elsewhere are something that can't be lived with. They think that people from suburban areas couldn't possibly have experienced the a small town feel of a lot of people in the same community knowing each other. They think we have no idea what cold feels like or how to deal with it. They think we emulate our lives by being jaded and bleak. They claim they never want to go to NY now that we experienced the same thing during co-vid as many people have across the globe. There are almost no people around the age of 30 from what's I've seen. Everyone either goes to the local high school, university, or is an old conservative.... the types that think that socialism and communism are synonymous.... There's even a Trump store along the highway. The girls in summer wear super short shorts and in colder weather, continue to wear them with a college sweatshirt. There is no culture. There are many people of Finnish decent but the local "Finnish" store is not more than another tourist shop for UP-themed items. It's all just sad. It's like the people up here lie to themselves to cope with a long, hard winter and boredom with lots of drinking and saying that their lakes and nature are better than living in a city, as if that is the only other option. Coming from a more suburban upbringing, I find the suburbs to genuinely be the best middle ground, both when it comes to livability and convenience.<br /><br />Just to touch on why I love PA so much, there are varying landscapes in terms of entertainment, stores, flat land vs mountainous regions, etc. The school system is above average in the country. There are many health-conscious and educated people there. People mind their business but they're usually friendly. There is plenty of culture and the weather is amazing. In Michigan, there are lots of snowbirds who purchase homes in warmer places so they can run away each winter if they're not busy hunting when in season, that or they travel downstate. They complain about the how harsh the winters are but still seem to want to live here bc it's all they know & they're comfortable. Weed is legal but the older people shame the ones who smoke because they think it's "dope" and affects your mental health in a negative way. The recycling system is a nightmare. As someone who doesn't often drink carbonated beverages, especially coming from NY and having to recycle my whole life, I found the thought of where all of my water and iced tea bottles end up after I toss them in with the rest of the trash perplexing. I do not understand why anyone would want to raise a family in an area that's known for having meth heads, teens constantly drunk driving bc there aren't really cabs, and not being able to utilize certain services bc they don't deliver up here. I'd go on but after a long time of this happening, he is doing it all over again sitting right next to me just because I changed my mind about which room I wanted to clean....Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-32551080513540784822021-01-08T18:27:07.914-08:002021-01-08T18:27:07.914-08:00When we first got to the UP, we went to A LOT of f...When we first got to the UP, we went to A LOT of family outtings. I was not so used to seeing family that often. We bounced around between his stepmoms place, his dads camp and his grandparents cabin. My best friend for the first week flew out to help me take care of the baby and keep me sane while he drove all the way back to NY with his dad and best friend (who I despise.... I'll explain later) just to squeeze what they could into a rental truck that was a tad bit too small so they ended up leaving some things behind. During that time she and I had fun taking the baby hiking at Sugarloaf Mountain, getting breakfast at Donkers, and exploring the area and poopoo coffee at the local shops. When he came back, it all went downhill. I was tired of being around his family almost every day and I wanted to feel like a couple again. Instead, he focused on woodwork projects and would leave me to take care of the baby in a place with no wifi. When we finally moved into our townhome the first week of August, it was a lot, but we helped each other to try and organize things and had to buy a bunch of new stuff. Being on unemployment and not having to work turned out to be beneficial in this situation. Unlike my ex, he ended up making us buy a lot of woodsy items for the house and in the end it turned out ok but not very me. After making a table and chairs for his dads camp, he moved on to his next project - refinishing the old coffee table (for a room we later on realized it didn't fit in) - so he turned it into a patio table project which is still incomplete. Then he started having me help him cut a trail through the woods to a new deer camp hunting spot he wanted.... on a marsh.... so he built his deer blind first and he has plans to build a platform for a pop-up blind this year. Mind you, deer camp was 2 months away at this time.<br /><br />This is where I'd like to start my exploration into "Yooper" culture. Many people up here are blonde. It becomes to become annoying when you start to realize that many of the people up here are isolated, get their information from news about cities they've never been to, and despise large cities while glorifying the UP, which, according to bumper stickers, is superior to coastal places because they're "Salt and Shark Free". They also like to boast that they are very much separate from the lower half of Michigan and refer to its' inhabitants as "trolls". I not only find "906", "Yooper", "Shark and Salt Free" and bumper stickers depicting only the UP portion of Michigan to be alienating to people trying to assimilate, but I find they're "Tourist Trap" to be even more reprehensible. It has a display of many exaggerated & racist masks on mannequin bodies and the sign in the entryway into the parking lot features a sentence encouraging visitors, stating "Welcome to Yooper land. Relax. Enjoy. Spend all your cash. But please don't move up here." I had even spoken with a man who came to live here bc of his wife and he said he hated it up here bc it almost seems like if you're not from here you'll never be treated like a local. They fantasize themselves. They get UP tattoos, they wear UP tourist clothes like it's fashionable, and they ask me every chance they get about how I'm "liking the UP" and when I lie and say it's been "nice" or "interesting" their follow-up response is always "it's a change of pace from the big city - aye?" or "it must be so nice not having to deal with what's going on over there" as if I just moved from a war zone.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-46124269415219312202021-01-08T18:26:03.380-08:002021-01-08T18:26:03.380-08:00When I told him he seemed in shock, but happy, and...When I told him he seemed in shock, but happy, and he told everyone. Shortly after me becoming pregnant, I started seeing A LOT of red flags. He never liked to discuss the future. He would get angry and have fights with me or change the subject if I brought up anything serious like finances, where we would live, getting a babysitter so we could work, etc. He would always shut me down & say "I have it under control." He made no effort to be there for me emotionally, took zero interest in any delivery or baby information I brought up, and the whole time he seemed distant, unloving, and had zero empathy. It was a very strange situation bc that is when the quarantine started. We eventually were both laid off since we were both in the restaurant industry and so it began.... all he did the whole time we were in quarantine was talk to his family and buddies back home, whether it was through text or video chat, and drank A LOT. I saw a few conversations between him and his friends and it was like reading the texts of a dumb high school kid who wanted to be a bachelor forever. He'd sit across from me on the recliner in the living room instead of next to me on the couch while I watched TV & he scrolled though Facebook the whole time, a place where he would sometimes view the posts of ex-girlfriends and old crushes. He would barely touch me and sometimes I'd beg him to come to bed and instead he'd go into the bathroom, even during the middle of the movie, for sometimes 20-30mins, to "poop" and I found out he was just watching porn the whole time. It made me feel very unwanted.<br /><br />After many explosive fights and me trying to explain what real life was many times, it got closer and closer to the time I would have to give birth. He would roll his eyes if I asked him to watch a Lamaze video on Youtube with me and he started planning our lives out without my consent. Apparently we were now going to move to the UP in Michigan to be closer to his family bc he claimed they would help us and the cost of living would be much lower. Although I couldn't stand the thought of moving so far away from my mother, sister, and friends, I knew we'd be better off not paying NY rent. I wanted to make a compromise and live somewhere btwn the two states, perhaps the suburbs of Pittsburgh, but he wasn't having that. He despised anything resembling a city after his bad experience 4 years being in NY. I had very little say in anything but the part that bothered me the most was that he knew I needed time to recover and I also didn't have a license so I proposed that we move to Marquette, which was more livable, and for us to stay in NY for at least a month after me giving birth so I could recover (I ended up being induced and was in labor for 18hrs and received an episiotomy) and what was that for?? He had serious fomo and bc he wanted to be able to be up there for the 4th of July, he fought me for the longest on me not wanting to travel in that condition. She ended up being born June 5th, over a week longer than he'd expected, so that meant no 4th of July for him. Suddenly he realized that he did have family in Jersey so we went there instead the day before I had my final doctors appointment and started the 20hr or so drive to the UP. He was great during the birth & was good with the baby but still didn't provide much emotional stability.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-88769271393768638642021-01-08T18:23:37.083-08:002021-01-08T18:23:37.083-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-84245418723517226172021-01-08T18:20:25.007-08:002021-01-08T18:20:25.007-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-51935372764708813822021-01-08T18:19:34.079-08:002021-01-08T18:19:34.079-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-50148506905648496242021-01-08T18:18:23.335-08:002021-01-08T18:18:23.335-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-86222665309984200082021-01-08T18:17:27.746-08:002021-01-08T18:17:27.746-08:00I was born in the Bronx and lived there till I was...I was born in the Bronx and lived there till I was 22. I went to college in Queens & worked all over Manhattan. When I hit my 20's I had given up on there being any decent men out there so I started trying out dating websites to see if men were different I other places. I met a few jerks who almost all happened to live in Brooklyn. At the time, I knew very little about Brooklyn. I finally met someone when I was 23 who lived in the very Eastern European part of Brooklyn called Sheepshead Bay. He was a Ukrainian Jew who grew up around many people like him and so we had many cultural differences but I think what peaked our interest in each other was that we both were seeking some change in our lives. Long story short, I moved in & 6 years later we moved to Westchester County bc I missed having more trees & nature around. We'd traveled quite a bit during our time together -- New Orleans, Savannah, Charleston, Charlotte, San Fransisco, all over New Jersey, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Delaware, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania (my favorite place, but I'll get to that later), Italy, The Netherlands and Germany. Even though he treated me well, I never felt the kinda spark I wanted to so I lost interest in the relationship so I ended things and got my own place. <br /><br />Within less than a year, I met someone who lived in Yonkers but who turned out to be from the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. The only thing I knew about Michigan other than the obvious Detroit being there, was about a place called Mackinac Island which an old coworker described as a nice summer spot. As someone who loves learning about other places and what comes with them, I was very curious and immersed myself in his interests. That was my first big mistake. I was so happy to find someone who was handy, had a cowboy thing going on, knew how to hunt, play guitar, was a chef and had the looks to go with it all, I was elated. I thought he could be the one after our 3rd date since he said he was ok with us being bf & gf and even asked me to announce it on Facebook. He was 23 at the time and I was 31. I knew that the age gap could be a bad thing but I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. Another red flag was that he had just gotten out, 2 months prior, from a toxic 2 year relationship with a bougie black girl that ended with her fighting him & breaking his nose followed by a police report and a restraining order. He seemed to not care about her at all after that so I kept on with the relationship. He eventually asked me to move in and even after a month or more of me being there, all of her things were still in his room. He kept swearing that it was bc he didn't want to throw it away in case she'd come back for them but it had been months & nothing so I finally told him it bothered me & that I would help him get rid of it all. 50 broken shoe boxes later, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. We, a few times, got very drunk and would sleep together and he, for some very strange reason, seemed ok with not using a condom. I had a strong feeling about him, so even though I was never ready for children, I asked him if he was and he said yes so I was ok with it and of course, I became pregnant. I honestly thought all my dreams were coming true. I was very wrong.Anghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11328118593745458700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4183132762587407363.post-21327537442372416122021-01-05T22:24:46.123-08:002021-01-05T22:24:46.123-08:00Wow. I have three degrees. They'd murder me.Wow. I have three degrees. They'd murder me.Amazon Bansheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810669785296695659noreply@blogger.com